Aliveness that transcends
the bedroom
You were speaking a language nobody translated for you.
Transform your intimacy, elevate your pleasure, and reconnect with your deepest essence through personalized coaching that radically uplevels your life in the bedroom and beyond.
The Erotic Blueprint® was created by Jaiya — as seen on Netflix's Sex, Love & Goop
Not incompatible.
Untranslated.
The Erotic Blueprint® is a framework identifying five distinct types of arousal. It explains why two people can both want closeness and still consistently miss each other — because they're speaking different erotic languages, not because either of them is broken.
Most people assume that if desire has gone quiet, something is wrong with them. Or with the relationship. Or with their age, their body, their hormones, their history.
Usually none of those is the actual problem. The problem is that nobody ever told you how you're wired — so you've spent years being offered a kind of attention that was generous, well-meant, and pitched in the wrong language entirely.
Knowing your Blueprint doesn't add a technique. It ends a long, quiet misunderstanding — often one that both people were being careful not to name.
The five
Erotic Blueprints
Most people are a primary type with a secondary. Very few are only one. Read them and notice which paragraph you recognise before you've finished it.
Energetic
Turned on by anticipation, longing, and the subtle dance of energy.
Arousal builds before anything happens at all — in the waiting, the almost, the space between. Speed and directness tend to collapse it rather than build it.
Commonly misread as — low libido, being "difficult," or needing too much lead-up.
Sensual
Aroused by the five senses — sight, touch, sound, smell, and taste.
The environment is not decoration; it's the mechanism. Texture, scent, light, music, and the absence of clutter or interruption do the work here.
Commonly misread as — being fussy, high-maintenance, or hard to please.
Sexual
Direct, straightforward arousal through nakedness and physicality.
Simple, immediate, uncomplicated. Arousal doesn't need a runway — and the elaborate build-up that another type requires can feel like an obstacle rather than a gift.
Commonly misread as — being unromantic, impatient, or only interested in one thing.
Kinky
Stimulated by psychological or physical edginess and taboo play.
The charge lives in the transgressive, the psychological, the negotiated edge. Far more often about power, permission, and mind than about equipment.
Commonly misread as — something to be ashamed of, or evidence that something went wrong somewhere.
Shapeshifter
Enjoys all the above, craves variety and novelty, insatiable.
Fluent in every language and starved by any single one of them. The Shapeshifter's difficulty is rarely too little desire — it's a partner who found one thing that worked and settled there.
Commonly misread as — too much, never satisfied, or impossible to keep up with.
There is no better or worse type here, and no type that needs correcting. There is only the one you are — and whether the people around you have ever been told.
Erotic Blueprint
Breakthrough™
Private coaching built on Jaiya's framework, for singles or couples.
Private 1:1 Zoom coaching
For singles or couples. Your sessions, your pace, entirely confidential — and shaped around what you're actually here to change.
Video tutorials with Jaiya
Support material from the creator of the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™ itself, so you're learning the framework from its source.
Erotic Freedom Club™
Exclusive community access — because this is territory most people have had nowhere honest to discuss.
Half-day body mapping immersion
A live guided immersion mapping what your body actually responds to — the part most people say they never knew was knowable.
What people
actually get back
Deepen intimacy
Closeness that isn't performed or scheduled, because you finally both know what actually creates it.
Better communication
Language for something you've had no language for — which is usually why the conversation kept not happening.
Discover your true desires
Not what you were told you should want. What you actually do — often a genuine surprise, at any age.
New levels of satisfaction
The difference between being touched and being reached. Most people can name the day they stopped expecting it.
Heal sexual shadows
Shame, history, and the beliefs absorbed early and never examined — met gently, at your pace, without pressure.
Before you
wonder
This is the subject people most want to ask about and least want to ask about. So here it is without being asked.
What this work is — and isn't
- No physical contact. Ever. Coaching is conducted one-to-one over Zoom and is conversation and practice-based.
- Nothing is shared. Sessions are private and confidential.
- You set the pace. Nothing is assigned that you haven't agreed to, and nothing is pushed.
- Practices are yours. What's explored, you explore privately or with your partner, in your own time.
- No prerequisites. You don't need experience, a partner, or a particular kind of body or history.
- This is coaching, not therapy. It isn't clinical care and can't diagnose or treat. If a licensed clinician would serve you better, Manon will say so.
What people ask
before they begin
What are the five Erotic Blueprint types?
The five Erotic Blueprint types are Energetic, turned on by anticipation, longing, and the subtle dance of energy; Sensual, aroused by the five senses of sight, touch, sound, smell, and taste; Sexual, direct and straightforward arousal through nakedness and physicality; Kinky, stimulated by psychological or physical edginess and taboo play; and Shapeshifter, who enjoys all of the above and craves variety and novelty.
What is the Erotic Blueprint?
The Erotic Blueprint® is a framework identifying five distinct types of arousal, created by Jaiya and featured on Netflix's Sex, Love and Goop.
It explains why two people can both want closeness yet consistently miss each other — because they're speaking different erotic languages, not because either is broken.
Who created the Erotic Blueprint?
The Erotic Blueprint® was created by Jaiya, a somatic sexologist, and was featured on the Netflix series Sex, Love and Goop.
Manon de Veritch coaches the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™ programme built on that framework.
What is included in the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough coaching program?
Private one-to-one Zoom coaching for singles or couples, support video tutorials with Jaiya as creator of the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™, exclusive access to the Erotic Freedom Club™ community, and a bonus half-day live body mapping immersion.
Is Erotic Blueprint coaching for singles or couples?
Both. Private one-to-one coaching is available for individuals and for couples.
Singles often come to understand their own arousal language before a relationship rather than during one. Couples usually arrive after years of quietly missing each other.
Does Erotic Blueprint coaching involve any physical contact?
No. Coaching sessions are conducted one-to-one over Zoom and are conversation and practice-based. There is no physical contact with your coach at any point.
Practices are things you explore privately, or with your partner, in your own time and at your own pace.
Can your Erotic Blueprint change over time?
Yes. A Blueprint is a current reading rather than a fixed identity.
It commonly shifts with life stage, health, hormonal changes, healing work, and relationship context — which is one reason midlife is such a frequent moment for people to discover theirs has changed underneath them.
How much does Erotic Blueprint coaching cost?
Investment is discussed on the free exploratory call, once it's clear whether you're working individually or as a couple and what you're moving toward.
There's no cost or obligation to have that conversation.
Your pleasure
becomes power
Desire didn't die. It went underground, and it waited.
If this page found something in you, it's rarely only about the bedroom. For women in midlife, this is often one stage of a much larger passage — and there are seven.
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